Husband discovers his wife of 19 years is really a man

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By: Devansh Dutt 

A man was devastated when he discovered that his wife, whom he had loved for many years was born a male, who has later in life undergone surgery to become a woman.

The woman chose not to tell her husband about the sex change, since she is now a full woman.

The man is asking a judge to annul their marriage after discovering that his wife of 19 years was born a man.

The couple, who got married in 1993, is referred to as Jan 64, and Monica 48. They had a good marriage for most of their 19 years together.

In recent weeks, the husband was shocked when he discovered that his wife is a transgender man, who had undergone a sex change. "I feel I've been assaulted," he said.

"I brought her from Indonesia to Belgium. That was not easy. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth certificate and her identity papers, but eventually they accepted it,” he added.

Monica was happy when Jan said he did not want more children. She immediately agreed to his plan. She did not tell him that she cannot have children since she was born a man. Jan, did not want to have more children since he already has two children from his previous marriage. Monica tricked her husband by pretending to menstruate. “She even used sanitary pads for her monthly period to hide the truth,” he said.

For many years the couple lived a normal family life, and Monica was great to his children. That was until a couple of months ago, when their marriage began to fall apart.

"Recently Monica got a full time job and she began to change a lot. My son saw her in a nightclub. She began to be more promiscuous and she started wearing more revealing clothing,” he said.

Then Jan began to hear rumors about her sex change. "A friend told me he had heard that Monica was actually a transgender man. I could not believe it. Then my son told me he heard similar rumors," Jan said.

“I went home and confronted her. I pushed her against the wall and I said: ‘I want to know the truth. Are you a man?’ She told me that she was born a male, but she underwent surgery and she is now a woman. She also claimed that she did not need to tell me about her past. My world collapsed,” Jan said.

Jan is undergoing psychiatric treatment since the discovery. Now, he is asking a court to annul their marriage since it was done under false pretences.

"That person has deliberately deceived him for years, and the children, who have lived with her for many years, are also devastated," his lawyer, Liliane Verjauw, said.